Alright guys, so bear with me here. If you know me personally, you'll know that there are only a few things in life I cant stand, among them are: horseradish, wasabi (because I think it tastes like horseradish), and having crushes.
Yup. There goes it. I said it. I CANT stand having crushes! I can give you a laundry list of reasons why
1. I don't like thinking about him
2. I don't like thinking about if he's thinking about me (or ...even knows I exist)
3. I don't like thinking about him thinking about me thinking about him. lol (do you follow?)
4. I don't like having to have an entire conversation with myself in my head before I go up and talk to him...because I want to make sure I act as casual as possible, and that he wont get the impression that I have a crush on him.
ME...the girl who talks to a brick wall if she gets the chance... is worried if someone will be suspicious because I talk to them. SMH
So yeah, I think I made my point pretty clear: I don't like having crushes.
That being said.I have a slight admiration for someone. I have a crush.
So...what am I learning in this season?
1. Crushes do not mean that you love God any less..or at least they shouldn't.
For the longest time I've hated having crushes because I always thought, "Great, now I'm gonna like this person, and then forget about God". For some people this is true. They allow their crush to consume their entire being, making an idol out of the person.No bueno! On the other hand though, I think I'm learning that when we have been justified by our faith in Christ's redemptive work, and when we repent of our sins, God draws us to Him with chords of kindness.The more we seek Him, is the more we find Him, and the more we find Him is the more we Love Him. And the cycle goes on and on and on! The intimacy that we have with God isn't one that was fashioned/made by human hands- but one that is ever deepening according to the work of the Holy Spirit within us.
2. Crushes can be a good thing (under certain conditions)
Cant believe that I, of all people am saying this,but follow me. When I went to my mentor and friend, and was telling her how I beat myself up about having a crush she helped me to see something from a different perspective. First, she pointed out that I should thank God because that meant I had natural affections (YAY..I like men)..and not just any man, but one who seems to love the Lord. That's so awesome, you guys. Look how far God has brought us, that we actually can be attracted to the Fruits of the Spirit that we see in a male counterpart!!! I think it's good to evaluate the reasons behind your attraction to someone (especially if you know at least a little bit about them). Is it purely physical, or is there something more? Don't downplay the fact that you are attracted to his Christlike attributes, that's a good thing :)
3. God sees, and knows. Talk to Him about it.
As with everything else. Don't be afraid to bring up your thoughts to the Lord. I used to always try and pray my crushes away. I would say "God, please let me stop liking this guy, I cant stand this feeling". Now, I pray that He will guard my heart, and teach me how to guard it.Not so much take my affection away, but rather grant me wisdom to know how to handle them. And sometimes I just...giggle like a school girl..and think "oh my gosh, God... I have a crush on this guy. I really do." Psalm 139 speaks a lot about God knowing EVERYTHING about us. Our most inward parts, our thoughts. Even if we wanted to hide from Him, we couldn't. He is God, and He is good. May we rejoice in the fact that we serve a God who actually listens us, and invites us into relationship with Him.
4. Learn how to healthily obey Prov 4:23
Proverbs 4:23 is quoted quite often, especially regarding relationships.
"Watch over your heart with all diligence,
For from it flow the springs of life." Some versions say guard your heart. Until recently, I took guard your heart as meaning "create a huge concrete wall structure around your heart, so that no guy will ever penetrate it". Yup..that's not what it meant. lol. Guarding your heart means having healthy boundaries in your interactions with others. Girls and guys alike.In regards to crushes, guarding your heart doesn't look like running the opposite way, or being excessively mean, or shutting your personality down. I think this blog post sums up what it looks like to Guard Your Heart, pretty well.
5. Let him pursue, if he chooses to.
Alright ladies, so this one can be tough. You see the guy and you like him, and..then*crickets*. Haha. Painstaking eh? I'm pretty big on the guy pursuing the lady. I think it's a great reflection of the Gospel of how Christ has pursued His bride. That being said, just because you are waiting for him to pursue you doesn't mean you have to act invisible. No. That's not what that means. Be his friend. There's nothing wrong with engaging in conversation and having good laughs, and being good genuine friends. Are you gonna be the one inviting him to a dinner date? Nahh. Let him do that! This is just my personal opinion!
6. Continue to be obedient, and enjoy the season you're in!
Even though having a guy interest can be a super exciting thing, lets try not to lose sight of what God has called us to right here and now. Be mindful of the season you're in, and what God has called you to for such a time as this. Continue being diligent, and blooming where you are planted. Don't let the possible prospect of being in a relationship shake you from where God has you, and what He has you doing!
7. God has your heart
Real talk, you guys. Whether or not the crush leads to a relationship, or just fades away into the past, bear in mind that God is the ultimate one who has your heart. He is Jealous for you (Exodus 20:5). He loves you with a love that is everlasting, and nothing can change that!
SEE. I told you that God was and IS faithful! He teaches His children and matures us in ways like no other! As 2 Cor 3:17-18 reminds us "17 Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 18 But we all, with unveiled face, beholding as in a mirror the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory, just as from the Lord, the Spirit."
We are being transformed into His image! Amen and Amen :)
Love you guys,
Diana
Wonderfulness :)
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